Guilt is one of the most destructive emotions you can get caught up in. You can do things you wish you hadn’t. Then you spend time thinking about why you did it? Should you have done it? What else could you have done? And before you know it you are surrounded with clouds of remorse, maybe self-doubt, even self-loathing. These clouds block your ability to see clearly and without clarity, you can struggle to see a different perspective.
In his book Power vs Force, Dr David Hawkins ‘mapped’ human emotions on what he called a Scale of Consciousness. On this scale, which spans 0 – 1000, with anger sitting at 150, guilt sits at 30. The only emotion on Hawkin's Scale of Consciousness lower than guilt is shame, which sits at 20.
Dr Brené Brown – researcher, TED speaker and author of the book Daring Greatly believes ‘that guilt is adaptive and helpful – it’s holding something we’ve done or failed to do up against our values and feeling psychological discomfort.’ Do you strive to be a better person? More loving, more consciously aware and more true to yourself? A feeling of guilt can be used to understand more about who you are. It’s a beautiful opportunity to show yourself some compassion and grace.
The more compassion and grace you show yourself,
the more you can show others.
Life is unpredictable.
From time to time you will do things or say things that you wish you hadn’t. Accept it with kindness and compassion. Remember, you are not your actions. Ask yourself, ‘what can I learn from this?’ What learning is in this for me? Torturing yourself will not make you a better person. Showing yourself some compassion absolutely will.
Self-forgiveness is a key component of self-compassion. When you forgive yourself, you acknowledge you made a mistake and not let it define you. Diana Cooper , therapist, healer and international author of several books, wrote a beautiful and incredibly powerful Forgiveness Decree. It is suggested you say it three times particularly as you begin to incorporate its energy into your life. When I first starting reading it out loud I could not get through it without crying. It was a few weeks before I could read it from beginning to end without shedding a tear. After many years of use the words are firmly within me and it has become part of my self-care tool kit. I encourage you to make it a part of yours.
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